Dating dependence

At some point, I realized three hours had passed, and I still hadn’t moved from my couch or started my day.

Q: When evaluating the health of a guy's relationship with his mom, what do you recommend a woman look for? Mandel: A guy with a healthy relationship with his mother can say "no" to her, make choices and decisions on his own, have an intimate relationship with a woman without fearing his mom will be jealous or intrude in his relationship, and likes it when mom is busy and enjoying her own life with or without a spouse.

If he still takes his laundry over to mom to have her do it, or has her cook weekly meals for him (and he doesn't have the flu), run!

If there is always that possibility, then you must ask yourself whether this person has the qualities you will need in a husband. Ask yourself these questions: How strong is his relationship with Jesus Christ? How passionate is he about reading God’s Word, prayer, and fellowship with other believers in a biblically solid church? However, in Ephesians Paul compares a husband’s role toward his wife with that of Christ’s role toward His Bride, the Church, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, the she might be holy and without blemish,” (Ephesians -27, emphasis mine).

Christ’s role and a husband’s role do differ because only Christ alone can truly cleanse us.

It can be difficult to be clear-headed in a dating relationship.

It is easy to see only the positive in the other person and completely ignore any warning signs. It would be foolish to date someone and not even consider the possible outcomes.

When you fall in love as a loving adult instead of as a wounded, needy child or adolescent, your need for the relationship is totally different.

As a loving adult, you have learned how to fill yourself with love and define your own worth.

There is an emptiness inside that you expect someone else to fill, because you are not taking responsibility for your own feelings of self-worth.

You are attaching your worth to another's love, which is why you can't live without that person.

Puzzled as to why when he's around his mother, your man acts more like a boy? D., author of "Dump That Chump: From Doormat to Diva in Only Nine Steps-- A Guide to Getting Over Mr. Mandel: Guys who have always been coddled and indulged by their moms often become "mama's boys." Moms who do this tend to be fairly needy (especially when it comes to male attention) and therefore seek to create a relationship in which someone will be very dependent upon her.