Over the years, any stigma of saying, “we met online” has evaporated. Valentine’s Day is coming up fast, and it has us in a romantic kind of mood, so we spoke to five awesome couples who met each other online and got hitched (or are engaged to get hitched) IRL. Dana: “My now-husband Darren and I met on Tumblr in March 2011 and have been married since September 2013.I was nervous to meet him, but not necessarily because he was from the Internet.
And you're not going to meet somebody at a bar if you're a single mom. Five months into dating, he proposed, but we had already been talking about it for a few months. So I saw that Khalil liked me, and at this point, it was kind of overwhelming to be a girl doing online dating — I needed to make a spreadsheet or something. After doing online dating for a while, what I knew was I'd rather not spend a long time getting to know him.
He had met my son, so we had to ask: Do we have a future? I don't know what I did to deserve this, but I'm just going with it. But I liked him back, and he messaged me right away. If he seemed normal, we'd have a drink, rather than building up this idea of who he is. On the site we used, they have a question that asks the things you can't live without, and I wrote was bad for the eyes and something about the evil eye. I actually forgot his name — I only remembered that he was no. When I got home, he texted me that he was deleting his account, and I was like, OK. It was the beginning of summer in New York, and every weekend was busy.
But the fear that online dating is changing us, collectively, that it's creating unhealthy habits and preferences that aren't in our best interests, is being driven more by paranoia than it is by actual facts.
"There are a lot of theories out there about how online dating is bad for us," Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist at Stanford who has been conducting a long-running study of online dating, told me the other day.
According to Pew Research, 15% of American adults report using online dating sites or mobile dating apps.
Online dating has jumped among adults under age 25 as well as those in their late 50s and early 60s.
I think the stigma on that has changed some, as people connect with others more and more via the Internet.
But a few years ago, it was a weird thing for sure.
A lot of us love technology, and for good reason — it makes our lives easier, connects us with friends near and far and entertains us to no end (as soon as I’m allowed to marry my i Phone, it’s happening).
Online dating is the perfect marriage — excuse the pun — of technology and romance.
Is it creating a new reality in which people actively avoid real-life interactions?